How to hold children accountable

All parents want our children to be responsible, but we must first of all differentiate responsibility with obedience. When children obey, they may or may not agree to do the tasks that are sent to them at home, but in the long run obedience always brings problems and consequences in the future because being an obedient being is not being oneself.

For children to be responsible, it is not only about obeying, but also about understanding what they do, how they do it, why they should do it and best of all, that it comes from within them to do things right.

1. The example of parents
Parents are the best school to teach children to be responsible, and this must be done with respect, creating an environment of trust and security and also setting an example since the children are babies.

The secret is to show the right attitudes instead of demanding them, a good relationship with children becomes key for children to learn what to do, whether we tell them or not. Parents should lead by example from the time their children are babies.

2. Tasks at home according to the age of the children
A child cannot be expected to be responsible by the time they are 15 after not working at home in the previous years. From the time they are small, children must be taught, for example, to pick up their toys, set the table, make the bed, as they grow up to pick up things in their room, to do their homework, to have their things organized, to help at home, etc. And teach all this from when they are very young so that they internalize within themselves the responsibility of doing things well.

To establish good responsibility, the rules should be established according to the age of the children and also establish consequences for not complying with them and rewards (never material) for doing things as they should be.

3. Have rules, limits and responsibilities at home
The rules and limits at home are essential for children to know from a young age what is expected of them, what they must do to contribute to the common well-being of the family and also understand that they must comply with it for the good of all.

For example, a series of understandable rules for the little ones can be put on the fridge so that they can see them and do not forget them. For the youngest members of the household, a point system can be created to encourage them to do things well.

4. Praise children's attitudes and initiatives
Children must learn to take care of what belongs to them, their bed, their books, their backpack, their toothbrush, etc. Parents should talk with children about the importance of taking care of things around us, of the house, as well as how important it is to collaborate with others. Participation or care with what belongs to everyone are also attitudes that lead children to be responsible.

When a child does not want to be responsible, it is because he refuses to do things that are entrusted to him, in these cases it will be necessary to know why he acts in this way since they always have an emotional background that will have to be resolved from love and respect.

Children like to be responsible because this will give them security and self-esteem, if they do not want to do things it is because something happens to them and it bothers them emotionally.

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