Most psychologists recommend educational consequences facing punishment to educate children. You know why? Because the punishments in the end are understood as a 'penalty' for something that the child did wrong, while the educational consequences teach the child to take responsibility for their actions and to understand that every action has a consequence that in many cases, harms another person .
Pay attention because we are going to explain to you, according to the advice of the psychopedagogue Andrés París, how to use educational consequences with children (in front of punishment).
The educational consequences they are not the same as punishmentsas punishments can never be educational. Educational consequences are those consequences that arise as a result of a behavior of our child every time a rule or limit is broken.
Faced with punishment, you can apply the so-called 'educational consequence', aimed at holding the child responsible and teaching him to fix 'what he did wrong'. But to apply them correctly, you should keep these tips in mind:
- They must be known to all parties. Both parents and the child should know them.
- They must be realistic. That is, they must be able to be met. You cannot threaten your child with something that you know you will not comply with.
- They must be adjusted to the age of the child. For 5-9 year olds, losing a privilege (such as not playing in the park that day) can be a good educational consequence. From that age, it can be a 'exclusive' consequence of an object that he likes.
- They must have a meaning. Explain the reason for this educational consequence
- They must be proportionate according to the damage committed. Never use a disproportionate educational consequence on your child. If your son broke a friend's pencil, ask him to replace the pencil with the money from his piggy bank, but never make him buy the pencil, a case and something else as compensation ...
You should always explain to your child why do you apply an educational consequence, And the best way to do it is by joining it to the repercussion that their faults or actions have on the emotions of others, whether they are parents, friends, colleagues ...
Show and explain to your child why their behavior causes discomfort in others, how it affects the emotions of others. For example, if your child broke another child's toy, make him understand that the other child is sad because he did not take care of the toy. Or if your child forgot to brush his teeth thoroughly, explain why you are angry that he decided to break a basic rule.
In the end, the educational consequences make the child realize that their actions generate certain types of emotions in others, and that you should think very well about what you do because your actions can generate sadness, anger or fear if they are negative.
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