There are children who, although they are educated and cared for in the same family, come out completely different in their way of being, of reacting, of demanding, or of expressing themselves.
For example, there are some who are not satisfied with just a 'no' or 'yes' from their parents to a question, and want more, to know the why or an explanation. Others, meanwhile, put up with the 'do not' or the 'Yes' and they are so happy. But.... Is yes or no an answer for children?
What group is your child in? My daughter was always in the group of children who require an explanation to all the responses of the parents. How repetitive she got, always saying: '... and why not or why yes?' Many times, due to lack of time, laziness or simply lack of patience, when our son asks us a question over and over again, we end up answering him impatiently: 'It's yes or no ... because I said so, period '.
Of course, that is not the best way to answer the children, especially when they are firm in their intention to get an explanation and tell us: 'because no, it's not an answer. ' My daughter was an expert at testing me with it. Then I had no choice but to take a deep breath and sit down with her to chat.
Should the reason for 'no' or 'yes' be explained to children? I believe that there are things that we must explain and others that we do not. For example, if my daughter asks me if she can eat more, I could just say yes, or I could say no and explain that 'because you have eaten enough', 'because there is nothing else left', or 'because the plate is to share between all '.
Parents must teach our children to accept frustrations. Saying 'no' will teach them that they cannot do or have everything they want. It is frustrations that will make children more confident and flexible.
There are things that children should know that a no or a yes is the answer. You cannot explain everything. Children need to understand the rules as they are, and will learn over time from our own experiences and examples when more explanations need to be asked. They must learn that the decisions that parents make cannot be held hostage to their wishes, and that they are and will always be for their good.
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